It is National Girlfriends Day! I can’t let the day pass without honoring the precious gift of gal pals.
A recent study by Stanford University revealed that the secret to a long life for a man is to be married; for a woman, the secret is to have good friends. Girlfriend time activates serotonin and is as important to our well-being as exercise. Read that again: as important as exercise! Ha!
Like we needed an erudite Ivy Leaguer to tell us that! If you’ve seen Menopause, the Musical (and if you haven’t, you must), you’ll remember that the final scene was a celebration of girlfriends. If I could dance and sing, I would perform a tribute to my friends. I can only write, so this is my ode to gal pals.
Men, if they’re unusual and very, very lucky (and quite possibly gay) have one or more good friends. By friends, I don’t mean people with whom they just drink, watch sports, or share an office or power tools. Not just someone a guy can call to ask advice beer kegs or discount plane tickets or plumbing. A “good friend” is someone a guy can call about his prostate problems (that’s not what I meant about “plumbing”), his obnoxious boss, his significant other, or feeling blue.
My husband has dozens of guy acquaintances, but only one man who seems anything like what I consider a “good friend.” Rick and his friend George (not his real name) watch sports, play online Scrabble, and dance around their political and religious differences, but I don’t think George has ever confided in Rick about missing his daughter in Europe, nor do I think Rick has ever confided in George about his beautiful, young wife.
I am giddy with gratitude for all I have in my life: my health, my marriage, my children, and most definitely, my friends. I have at least three dozen women (and a couple men) with whom I could discuss personal, physical, or professional dilemmas. I could discuss my checking account, my insecurities, my dreams, and my disappointments with all of them, as well as my thick thighs, facial hair, and vaginal dryness with a couple dozen.